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Saturday, March 14, 2009

"The" Ring

My husband just bought me the most beautiful diamond anniversary/celebration ring EVER!!!! We always planned that I'd get a diamond band when I finally got pregnant. That might sound weird and even trivial, but we wanted to have something that signified our past, present, and future. Lately, I've stopped saying, "when I get pregnant, I'll..." It seems so out of our hands, you know? And my DH now gets it too, because he decided to forgo the preconceived idea of waiting until pregnancy and he bought me the ring!


We've been through a lot of trying times in the past 3 years. A lot of our pain has come from unexpected and unplanned infertility, but other pain we've inflicted on ourselves. I'm not going to go into it, partly because I still feel so guilty for my hand in it, and partly because my DH does read this blog. Hi honey! The bottom line, though, is this ring truly symbolizes all that we've faced together. The good, the bad, the downright ugly...and we've made it this far. We still laugh together, A LOT, we share many of the same dreams, we've worked so hard to accept each other with all of our faults, and he's still the only man I could ever dream of coming home to each night. There were quite a few times when both of us almost walked away from this marriage. But, we didn't.

Maybe I can't tell people that this ring is a celebration of our new baby. But, so what? Because come to think of it, I'd rather it be a celebration of US, a reminder that we may be walking through fire, but we're choosing to do it together.

21 comments:

  1. I love this...what a wonderful way to celebrate your love and your commitment to each other.

    And thank you for your support on my blog. It means the world to know we are not alone.

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  2. That is AWESOME! :-) And you are right, why wait until 'someday' to celebrate what we have TODAY.

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  3. Its beautiful! And you're right - we should celebrate what we have, and not intertwine it with anything else!

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  4. It's a beautiful ring. and I like that it symbolizes what you have - your love for each other - even (and especially) through the difficulties and curveballs thrown by life.

    Mo

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  5. it's so lovely! i really like it. when i finished chemo i got a new ring. :) i always thought that when i got pregnant i would get the tiffany bean necklace...but i don't want it now. i just am happy for what i have ;)

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  6. It's beautiful. And good for both of you, not putting things of for "maybe tomorrow."

    (oh, I responded to your comment, too. I'm in the US. I had said in my COUNTY. I was wondering if anyone would read it countRy, and they did! I bet you weren't the only one, though!)

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  7. Beautiful ring. Bitch, I'm so jealous. I want a new piece of jewelry so bad. Hubby is still making me wait until I present him with a live baby. My carat weight expectations go up with each failed try!!!

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  8. Gorgeous ring. I might have to tell E I want one. :)

    I am a strong believer in celebrating what we have. Good for you for doing so.

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  9. What a beautiful ring! And what a beautiful reminder of your relationship and your journey so far. =)

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  10. Oh it's beautiful!! I want one! :) Congrats on your "us" ring. And remember, Jesus will never leave you flat.

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  11. beautiful, and yay for both of you being in the same place, that is special!

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  12. I love the moments in life where we triumph over adversity. This beautiful ring represents such a moment.
    I hope it reminds you of how strong you are and how far you have come every time you look at it.

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  13. Happy anniversary! What a nice way to remember the wonderful relationship you have- in good times and in bad!

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  14. I love your ring!! It's beautiful...

    I think it's such a good idea to commemorate where you are right now! Your husband's done good :)

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  15. It's beautiful! I love it- and I love what it represents! GOOD luck to you this week....things officially begin for you! What I experienced last time, once I started the pill it seemed like time really flew by! Good luck to US!!!!

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  16. Just found your blog - gorgeous ring. Good luck this week, I plan on following along.

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  17. Erica it's gorgeous! I hope you guys had an amazing anniversary and continue to always make each other your first priority in life:)

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  18. It's beautiful! I think we all need to focus on what we do have during all of the crap!

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  19. Oh my gosh, Erica!!!!! That is gorgeous. I love it, the symbolism, and the happiness soaking through your blog today. HUGS. Congrats. You lucky girl. :)

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  20. Wow, Erica! What a BEAUTIFUL ring and a BEAUTIFUL sentiment behind it. Without even knowing you I am so proud of you and your husband. HUGE CONGRATS!

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  21. This blog made me cry. I had a miscarriage a few weeks ago and we were in the process of buying a house, and I almost walked away from him and the house. My emotions overwhelmed me and I couldn't handle it, and I wanted out for a few hours. My dad brought me to my senses, and I am so glad because I couldn't picture a better person to spend the rest of my life with!

    Your rings is beautiful, and I am glad you got it now! Your hubby can buy you something else when you have the baby, lol! I wish the best for you two...this isn't an easy battle and it is hard for newlyweds...but it will make your bond stronger.

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